Ladies, I need advice to pass on to Ava's mommy. It seems my girl has begun to morph into a manipulative monster, albeit a very cute and funny little monster. It seems she is hitting and biting others, and gagging herself to get attention. It boggles my mind that she could POSSIBLY need MORE attention. Believe me, she gets plenty. So what should Laura do? Ava is too young for timeouts, spanking is not an option, and yet it hurts when the Avanator smacks you in the face! Worst of all is the evil look in her eye as she is smacking you. Once she gets over her irritability she is all love and hugs and smiles again.
All kidding aside, Ava has certainly developed some behavioral issues. The gagging part is no laughing matter. She vomits regularly...every day...because she either stuffs her hand or a toy in her mouth until she gags. She won't settle for anything less than Laura's undivided attention, and gagging and retching is her weapon of choice if mommy doesn't comply. So what do you do? It's getting so problematic that the feeding therapist suggested that maybe Ava needs a psychologist!
Just when you think you have this whole WS thing under control some other issue pops up and the fun starts all over again. I am actually somewhat jealous of some of you, although I am not proud of it. Ava cannot eat anything with texture-nothing but stage 2 baby food. She can't even eat those teething biscuits that dissolve into goo the minute they make contact with saliva. She is working on using a sippy cup but gags most of the time. Often she can vomit just by looking at food. She isn't mobile, although she has begun to roll around. Her sensory issues are getting worse. She is a scratcher and a wheel spinner. (Sheesh...nice labels) I guess we are all just getting impatient. We want to feed her real food. We want her to grow and learn new skills. And none of it is happening fast enough. It would be so nice to know just how disabled she really is and what we could reasonably expect of her.
I am trying really hard to feel grateful for Ava's relatively good health, and I know that we are luckier than so many families. But darn it, is it wrong to want it ALL for your grandbaby? I love her so much!
PS: The pic was taken in July '06. At that point Ava was crazy about standing up and dancing to the ring tone on my phone. So when the photographer needed a way to get her to smile..Voila!. We held hands and danced.